“It’s time to live tweet this bitch”- Taraji P. Henson
Society has grown to love social media’s electric power of togetherness. The ability to connect with friends, family, and colleagues, both old and new, prompts us to share our lives on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and SnapChat. The idea of “oversharing,” is actually a connection to a subconscious obsession with reality television and our need for 15 minutes of fame. It’s overlooked because social media has basically taken over the daily lives of the general population. Pew Research Center reports that approximately 79% of Americans are Facebook users. Even the current POTUS has about 25 million Twitter followers. Of course, we witness how he uses it to mishandle the revealing of basically any piece of information he receives.
What we forget is that when you post on your social media you invite basically everyone in the world to comment on it. While you may feel like you aren’t specifically asking for an opinion, it’s safe to say that those who offer up their estimation feel as if it’s warranted. For all intents and purposes, you made a conscious decision to publicize that moment of your life- a picture, post, comment, snap, tweet, share, etc. In doing so, you offered up that moment for public analysis. Newton’s Third Law dictates that the public then proffers up emotional sacrifices of love, sadness, dislike, whatever they deem to be an equally opposing reaction. At least in principle anyway.
So why then do we so often get offended when it seems that we have perverted the normalcy of social exposure and turned it into this obtrusive-mess. Now we see screenshots of your personal texts in your public status. We see your excessive subtweets about your marital and co-parenting issues. We get the rundown and you are suddenly concerned about how your business got all around town. Then the moment someone comments it’s a “shots fired” type of situation because they are all in your business.
The truth is: you invited us here. So, of course, you may feel that half of your city is openly discussing what is going on right underneath your post and the other half is talking about you in the privacy of group chats, texts, or other forms of tea.
The lesson we have to learn here is selective disclosure. Sharing your entire life on social media is unfair to you and all those connected to you. I am also against sharing how you feel that another country is behaving badly on Twitter …but that could just be me.
Keep some of your social life anti-social.